Yes, indeed--- I've been wanting even one story about how not everyone is going to be good at parenting, much less enjoy it, and except for one quasi-throwaway line by a minor character in a Richard North Patterson novel about how she loved her prospective children too much to inflict the kind of mother she'd be on them, nada. And then suddenly it is right there up on the screen in the fandom that's been the fandom of my heart for my whole life, practically, and I am just like, "There. There. Just because we like people or characters and just because they are epic at one thing does not make them good at this whole other skillset." (And then a whole chunk of fandom went and treated Ben like an Identified Patient. Sigh.)
Honestly, Finnrey trips a whole lot more of my personal cues for both racism and sexism than anything involving Ben and Rey.
And on the subject of Ben and Rey, do you mind if I ask what you think Anakin's relationship with his surviving family would have been like if he'd lived after ROTJ? Because... for me, I think that really did influence a lot of how I think about Ben and Rey, and the assumptions I went into the ST trilogy with about how relationships in the series work. I mean, I personally don't think that any post-ROTJ Skywalker family dinners where redeemed!Anakin was present would involve blaster shots, torture, and dismemberment (like the one they had at Bespin did) so I approached Ben and Rey with the same attitude--- not least because he's arguably less worse to her than his grandfather was to Luke, Han, and Leia--- and he'd been explicitly set up as wanting to follow his grandfather's legacy, which not only includes the redemption arc but turning your cape for the woman you love, it's just that Ben's turn would be in the other direction. So when I see fans in general assuming that Ben's behavior to Rey wouldn't change with a redemption arc, I... just wonder what they thought a post-ROTJ Anakin's relationship with his family would be like?
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Honestly, Finnrey trips a whole lot more of my personal cues for both racism and sexism than anything involving Ben and Rey.
And on the subject of Ben and Rey, do you mind if I ask what you think Anakin's relationship with his surviving family would have been like if he'd lived after ROTJ? Because... for me, I think that really did influence a lot of how I think about Ben and Rey, and the assumptions I went into the ST trilogy with about how relationships in the series work. I mean, I personally don't think that any post-ROTJ Skywalker family dinners where redeemed!Anakin was present would involve blaster shots, torture, and dismemberment (like the one they had at Bespin did) so I approached Ben and Rey with the same attitude--- not least because he's arguably less worse to her than his grandfather was to Luke, Han, and Leia--- and he'd been explicitly set up as wanting to follow his grandfather's legacy, which not only includes the redemption arc but turning your cape for the woman you love, it's just that Ben's turn would be in the other direction. So when I see fans in general assuming that Ben's behavior to Rey wouldn't change with a redemption arc, I... just wonder what they thought a post-ROTJ Anakin's relationship with his family would be like?